true meaning of “marriage makes you one”.

So in this day and age everything is so different, so evolved. What about marriage? It has changed drastically. I see couples who have so many boundaries, where they have even blocked each other on social media! Is that too much?! Is that truly being one?! What happened to what’s yours is mine?! What happened to complete submission? To vulnerability? I have gotten with couples that keep things from each other so that the other won’t use it against them if they were to ever get a divorce!
Then there are those who want to keep it classic “like the old days” where if one goes the other has to as well and if one can’t go then neither can the other. Where they are robbed from their own identity because the have to be more like their spouse. I know couples who only are with their spouse there is no more group settings or friends because they no longer fit due to the spouses taste in friends. Is that how it should be? Shouldn’t there be a happy medium? Let me know what your take on marriage is. How should it be? What is the “right way”? I would love to hear everyones input! And be ready! I’m about to get real vulnerable here and give you insight into my marriage and how I think it should be.
                       “ No one is perfect, but we should always try to be better”
                                                                                                 I’m back :) -Valcal on just life.